INDIAN GIRLS

According to Indian women, there are only one kind of men this country has -.. All men crave for sex.All men are perverts and  male chauvinistic idiots..Whatever men do they do it to impress women.

Girls please wake up.We have a life of our own without you girls.We just need a true social interaction without any ulterior motives. I would like to describe some scenarios in college and lets just see how an Indian girl thinks while facing these situations.


Scenario 1: A bunch of guys standing in the college corridor and laughing loudly.
Girl(thinks): They must be cracking dirty jokes on me or saying offensive things about my friends.

Scenario 2: A guy staring at a girl.
Girl(thinks): What a jerk! He is staring at me.Must be imagining me naked.

Scenario 3: A guy says hii to a girl in his class.
Girl(thinks): saala sab ke samney hii bol raha hai....log kya sochengey...hiii bolu yaa nahi bolu.....hmmmm.

Scenario 4: A guy asks a girl her mobile no.
Girl(thinks): What if he sends me dirty messages or  worse says 'i love you'.

Scenario 5:A guy sitting alone in a classroom because he is too early to the class and a girl arrives.
Girl(thinks): Uimaa...ab mein kya karun class ke andhar javu ya bahar khadi rahu..mujsey akele  milney keliye saala jaldi aajatha hai...

Scenario6: A guy eats a biscoot without paying attention to girls around him.
Girl(thinks): bilkul bachha hai.Mein yaha khadi hoon aur yeh biscuit kha raha hai..

Scenario 7: A guy wears tight t shirt. Muscles bulging out.
Girl(thinks): mujhey impress karney keliyehii aisa  t shirt pehna hai...

Scenario 7:A guy on phone  speaking  in a language unknown to the girl sitting beside him.
Girl(thinks): kahi yeh mere bare may tho nahi baath kar raha haina...

Scenario 8:A guy smiles at the other girl.
Girl(thinks): He is trying to make me jealous.

Scenario 9:Guy making weird sounds. 
Girl(thinks):I won't look back.

Scenario 10:Guy asks a doubt in classroom.
Girl(thinks):You cannot impress me.

Scenario 11: Guy absent for class since 1 week.
Girl(thinks): He thinks i will miss him if he is absent.

Scenario 12: Guy sleeps in class while sitting beside a girl.
Girl(thinks): He wants me to wake him up.

Scenario 13:Guy was told to get out of the classroom by sir.
Girl(thinks): He did it for me.

Scenario 14:Guy slaps the other guy.
Girl(thinks): Why are they fighting for me?

Scenario 15; Guy comes to class with a clean shaved face .
Girl(thinks): i won't accept if he proposes me.

Scenario 16:Guy kneels down to tie his shoe lace
Girl(thinks):oh my god...oh my god...oh my god.

my letter to Markandey katju..

Dear Sir,
            I would like to thank you for reminding us that 90% of Indians are fools. I completely agree with you . Indians don't realize that their foolishness is making life difficult for many people in India.I also agree with your statement that a lot of hue and cry is created only when something happens in a big city like Delhi while they turn a blind eye to so many other problems that haunt our nation .Most of the Indians are not aware how this foolishness of caste system,dowry ,female foeticide etc. affect their own lives. They just read about them in newspapers and they forget it later thinking that that it is not their concern.

             I was a cool college going kid like everyone else not bothered about the problems in our society.Indians don't react until something affects them directly. Let me tell you how the foolishness of Indians is affecting people .

CASTE SYSTEM: - I was not even aware of this term when i was in school. i was busy in my own world during my college life.Problem started when one of my friends is looking for a bride in an online matrimonial site.There are very few girls in his caste and he could not find a perfect match for him in his caste.So he started searching for girls in other castes.But the sad part is even these so called  modern women  and their parents(modern only in attire and not in thoughts) have so much caste feeling  that they seem to be reluctant to talk to a person of a different caste.   Indians boast of UNITY IN DIVERSITY so proudly but the fact is there is no unity at all .Indians are a bunch of fools who confine themselves to such ridiculous things like caste ,religion and what not. And even if someone finds a girl of his choice ,they are welcomed by honour killings or some other harassment. Because of this caste and religious sentiments our choices are being restricted...

FEMALE FOETICIDE : -This ultimately leads to the decline in sex ratio .You must be thinking whats in it for me if the sex ratio declines . Very few girls for a large number of boys. I studied in an engineering college  and in my college out of a total 429 seats in my batch there were only 70 girl students. That means 359 boys and 70 girls. There was so much competition if anyone wants to go out on a date with a girl.You may think that that it is a trivial issue that is confined to just a college goer .But if you see the college as a social structure ,as a part of this society you can extrapolate and u will realize the gravity of the situation.Interaction between men and women is necessary for emotional maturity.Men don't know how to deal with women and in response they resort to violence.Domestic violence,sexual crimes against women are all because of the frustration  present in our male dominated society.Our own actions are resulting in crimes against women.

DOWRY :- Dowry still exists which results in the preference for a male child. Even some women support dowry because they say that they had given dowry during their marriage and so the tradition must continue.If a family is having a boy and a girl  and they cannot afford their daughter's marriage they will ask their son to marry first so that he can get enough money in the form of dowry and this will in turn has a spill over effect.We don't know where it starts and where it  ends..This is a vicious circle.Dowry is like corruption and bribery.It has to stop. People instead of educating their children ,try to accumulate wealth since the infancy of girl child.Even if some people  are mature enough to go against dowry other Indians are fools and they insist on dowry.

I wanted to speak my mind out since i am very frustrated with life among these narrow minded foolish people.They are too ignorant to accept their foolishness.IF I SPEAK NOBODY WILL LISTEN BUT IF A PERSON LIKE YOU SPEAKS EVERYONE WILL LISTEN. BECAUSE YOU KNOW I AM JUST A  COMMON MAN AND NOBODY LISTENS TO ME EVEN IF I YELL OUT IN THE OPEN. I SALUTE TO PEOPLE LIKE YOU WHO COME FORWARD BRAVELY TO SPEAK OUT AND TRY TO BRING CHANGE 
                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Regards:-
                                                                                                                                                                                                                    BABU RAJENDRA PRASAD SARILLA.,
                                                                                                                                                                                                                     A COMMON MAN.

WOMEN AND PATRIARCHY...

PATRIARCHY-the term that has never been pondered upon is making news recently .People coming out on streets to protest against the crimes against women. The root cause of all these crimes against women is patriarchy,

PATRIARCHY is so ingrained in our society that even women tend to follow it blindly after all women are also a part of our society.

ALL MEN ARE ALIKE - say women . But is it possible to know all men .This generalisation of a man's behaviour tends to result in a stereotypical view about men..

Men who are sensitive and expressive are treated with contempt by women.In most of the cases women consider such men as boring and not worthy of having any kind of interaction.

A woman always chooses a man better than her in every aspect. They see relationship between men and women as a form of domination.And by choosing someone better than them as their life partner they tend to justify this domination.

I am not saying that women should not choose men better than them but i am merely pointing out the fact that many men and even women see relationship as a form of domination. In most of the cases a man is reluctant to choose a woman better than him and invariably a woman is equally reluctant to choose a man who is not better than her.This is patriarchal mindset.

When it comes to commodification of a woman ,it is true to some extent that media is responsible for it but it is also important to look at  various levels in our society like school,college and office.

College is a microcosm of our society. In college girls hangout with popular boys instead of making their own efforts to become popular on their own . They tend to commodify themselves as an object by being with someone popular.Here they do not realize that their own identity is at risk.


The preconceived notion that a guy gets a girl only if he is perfect turns into something like girls don't hangout with imperfect men which in turn leads us to believe that women do not have a identity of their own therefore they associate themselves with someone perfect..


"BEHIND EVERY MAN THERE IS A SUCCESSFUL WOMAN"-  Woman here is in the background and not a main player here . It also says that woman is a commodity that comes along with success.Women are always behind successful men..Can't women be successful on their own .


Women worry about their looks so much because there is so much pressure on them to look good. .They try their best to look good. But they never ask themselves this one simple question. " Why should i look good all the time?."

Beauty parlours- the one place that many women visit don't realize that they are making themselves a commodity by projecting the view that it is very essential for women to look good.

Even a very intelligent girl with average looks does not get proper attention whereas a very good looking girl grabs all eye balls even if she is the dumbest dumb person on this planet. This needs to be changed.

Patrirachy is not entirely a male domain . Even some women are responsible for the continuation of this patriarchal mindset .Women should start questioning these patriarchal values instead of bowing down to them.Only then there will be a fair society for men and women.

BLACK IS BEAUTIFUL

Recently i went to the beautiful beach in VIZAG with my friends . We took a group photo and i overheard one of my friends remarking that " he looked black in the photos".

So What? Why is it something to feel bad about? Most of my friends are dark skinned and they feel bad about it .They consider white skinned people as beautiful.


Indians raise their eyebrows if they find a white skinned girl dating a dark skinned boy.

"HUM KAALEY HAI THO KYA HUA DILWALE HAI ".

This song of 1970s itself  reflects the prejudices that are present in our Indian society.

In our country marriage proposals request a "fair"bride/groom . Almost all Bollywood actors are fair skinned and all advertisements use only fair skinned Indians.


A dark skinned  man dreams of a  fair skinned girl.
The girl's mother will look for a fair  skinned boy .

Women also like men who are fair ." kitna cute hai " is the comment that most girls use . "Cute" is always accompanied by "fair". I had never seen a girl passing such a comment on a dark complexioned guy even if he is handsome because they don't consider dark men as 'cute 'worthy.

Recently i was watching miss universe pageant with my friends .
There were beautiful girls with different skin tones. My friend started laughing when he saw a girl with dark skin tone walking on the ramp. He was even surprised how such a dark skinned girl could make it to the pageant.


These Fairness ads spread the syndrome - if you are fair you are attractive .

Fairness is an aspiration to dark -skinned people and fairness products are taking undue advantage of this.


Why do we consider fair skinned people as good looking and dark skinned people as ugly?

The answer to this question lies in the analysis of  biological inequalities.

what exactly is biological inequality?

People come in different colours. That is natural. Biological differences exist in nature .

These biological difference become inequalities when we define them as such.

Andre Betielle  states that " NATURAL INEQUALITIES ARE BASED ON DIFFERENCES IN QUALITIES AND QUALITIES ARE NOT JUST THERE IN NATURE ; THEY ARE AS HUMAN BEINGS HAVE DEFINED THEM."

Physical characteristics of Blacks in America are traditionally defined as undesirable and associated with a range of negative qualities.

Whites claim biological superiority over blacks and they use this as a basis for dominance.

Whites invaded the globe and Blacks were made slaves . They created a value system based on white superiority. 

The perception that was created by them that white is beautiful remained in many societies  even after they left.

If the blacks have invaded the globe the case would have been different. 

This could be one of the reasons but  there is no pinpoint explanation  about how this dominance of fairness has emerged because it is not possible to study reality completely.