PATRIARCHY-the term that has never been pondered upon is making news recently .People coming out on streets to protest against the crimes against women. The root cause of all these crimes against women is patriarchy,
PATRIARCHY is so ingrained in our society that even women tend to follow it blindly after all women are also a part of our society.
ALL MEN ARE ALIKE - say women . But is it possible to know all men .This generalisation of a man's behaviour tends to result in a stereotypical view about men..
Men who are sensitive and expressive are treated with contempt by women.In most of the cases women consider such men as boring and not worthy of having any kind of interaction.
A woman always chooses a man better than her in every aspect. They see relationship between men and women as a form of domination.And by choosing someone better than them as their life partner they tend to justify this domination.
I am not saying that women should not choose men better than them but i am merely pointing out the fact that many men and even women see relationship as a form of domination. In most of the cases a man is reluctant to choose a woman better than him and invariably a woman is equally reluctant to choose a man who is not better than her.This is patriarchal mindset.
When it comes to commodification of a woman ,it is true to some extent that media is responsible for it but it is also important to look at various levels in our society like school,college and office.
College is a microcosm of our society. In college girls hangout with popular boys instead of making their own efforts to become popular on their own . They tend to commodify themselves as an object by being with someone popular.Here they do not realize that their own identity is at risk.
The preconceived notion that a guy gets a girl only if he is perfect turns into something like girls don't hangout with imperfect men which in turn leads us to believe that women do not have a identity of their own therefore they associate themselves with someone perfect..
"BEHIND EVERY MAN THERE IS A SUCCESSFUL WOMAN"- Woman here is in the background and not a main player here . It also says that woman is a commodity that comes along with success.Women are always behind successful men..Can't women be successful on their own .
Women worry about their looks so much because there is so much pressure on them to look good. .They try their best to look good. But they never ask themselves this one simple question. " Why should i look good all the time?."
Beauty parlours- the one place that many women visit don't realize that they are making themselves a commodity by projecting the view that it is very essential for women to look good.
Even a very intelligent girl with average looks does not get proper attention whereas a very good looking girl grabs all eye balls even if she is the dumbest dumb person on this planet. This needs to be changed.
Patrirachy is not entirely a male domain . Even some women are responsible for the continuation of this patriarchal mindset .Women should start questioning these patriarchal values instead of bowing down to them.Only then there will be a fair society for men and women.
PATRIARCHY is so ingrained in our society that even women tend to follow it blindly after all women are also a part of our society.
ALL MEN ARE ALIKE - say women . But is it possible to know all men .This generalisation of a man's behaviour tends to result in a stereotypical view about men..
Men who are sensitive and expressive are treated with contempt by women.In most of the cases women consider such men as boring and not worthy of having any kind of interaction.
A woman always chooses a man better than her in every aspect. They see relationship between men and women as a form of domination.And by choosing someone better than them as their life partner they tend to justify this domination.
I am not saying that women should not choose men better than them but i am merely pointing out the fact that many men and even women see relationship as a form of domination. In most of the cases a man is reluctant to choose a woman better than him and invariably a woman is equally reluctant to choose a man who is not better than her.This is patriarchal mindset.
When it comes to commodification of a woman ,it is true to some extent that media is responsible for it but it is also important to look at various levels in our society like school,college and office.
College is a microcosm of our society. In college girls hangout with popular boys instead of making their own efforts to become popular on their own . They tend to commodify themselves as an object by being with someone popular.Here they do not realize that their own identity is at risk.
The preconceived notion that a guy gets a girl only if he is perfect turns into something like girls don't hangout with imperfect men which in turn leads us to believe that women do not have a identity of their own therefore they associate themselves with someone perfect..
"BEHIND EVERY MAN THERE IS A SUCCESSFUL WOMAN"- Woman here is in the background and not a main player here . It also says that woman is a commodity that comes along with success.Women are always behind successful men..Can't women be successful on their own .
Women worry about their looks so much because there is so much pressure on them to look good. .They try their best to look good. But they never ask themselves this one simple question. " Why should i look good all the time?."
Beauty parlours- the one place that many women visit don't realize that they are making themselves a commodity by projecting the view that it is very essential for women to look good.
Even a very intelligent girl with average looks does not get proper attention whereas a very good looking girl grabs all eye balls even if she is the dumbest dumb person on this planet. This needs to be changed.
Patrirachy is not entirely a male domain . Even some women are responsible for the continuation of this patriarchal mindset .Women should start questioning these patriarchal values instead of bowing down to them.Only then there will be a fair society for men and women.
Till the statement "College is a microcosm..." I felt u were stable and writing with directed emotions... but after that, it feels like u took different routes and reading for me has become difficult, because of more informal approach u followed... if u try to make a point and relate to how women had chosen/are choosing men who are better than them, i think u should relate attitudes from different generations... I believe, then wasn't about patriarchy, it was respect and attitude that both carry for both... but if u try to relate the then behaviour to present times, where the word respect was highly confused, i think it is wrong... well all i am saying is, we are in a highly confused society and u r also making the same mistake by making points from different generations... but all in all, till the paragraph as i mentioned above, is well put...
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ReplyDeleteAttitude is not an isolated entity.
Attitude can be defined as positive or negative evaluation of people,objects,events,ideas or just about anything in your environment.
A woman's attitude is itself shaped by the norms and values (collective conscience) present in her society.Patriarchy is a part of this collective conscience.Her attitude is shaped by the patriarchial mindset present in her society through the socialisation process that she undergoes in her society.
i gave the example of college to emphasize that how women are being transformed into commodities .
maal,ladki patana..these are the words we often hear in college. Here she just gets reduced to an object of beauty( a commodity).
In most of the cases a popular guy gets the girl--here girl prefers to stay with him just because he is popular ( someone better than her).Here A girl is a commodity that can be earned by becoming popular.
Women spend a considerable time on their looks because they think it is essential to look good there by commodifying themselves as an object of beauty.
Even if you consider attitudes from different generations,they are still patriarchal in nature.There is no escaping from it.
From time immemorial patriarchy existed in one form or the other..
from ancient days to complex modern state.